When action has been decided there are a few simple steps that can help manage the process.
This is a simple approach covering the major concerns.
In practice, it may be hard to define those responsible as this can be flexible.
This is on the basis that the person accountable will identify those as and when necessary to deliver the goods.
For any action a simple grid could be prepared that identifies those above under the headings:
Role models are extremely important and probably the best will be parents.
Clearly, there will be others, sports stars, religious leaders, film stars but parents have a greater opportunity to influence and motivate.
Would you like your child to be like you? Imitation is a common way of learning.
How do you deal with emotional issues? Do you explain issues to your child?
Are you too much of a perfectionist having no room for failure? Everyone fails. We learn a lot from failure and gain experience.
Being too rigid and inflexible may not allow you to achieve your goals.
Do you make time for your family? Do you instigate activities or wait to be asked?
How much interest to do you take in your child’s activities or school work?
You can of course also develop yourself as a role model. If you try acting in a particular manner it may help to develop that particular characteristic.
Why not have a go at acting lessons? These help a lot of people gain confidence.
If you are serious about using a role model to help with your motivation make sure you make the effort to choose the correct one(s).
The idea is to try to act as you think they would do in a given situation. You are trying to emulate them.
If you just choose ‘famous’ people at random and vaguely label them as your role model you might end up just envying them and not trying to copy them.
Don’t just jot down their names. Make an effort to get to know more about them by reading autobiographies and other literature.
Display their picture prominently as a constant reminder to the standards you wish to achieve. Help your motivation.
The character of individuals is never polarised completely in one direction.
Even an eternal optimist will be pessimistic at some point in time and vice versa.
It can be too simplistic to imagine that people can be like a light switch either in the ‘on’ position or the ‘off’ position as though they were programmable in binary code.
It’s important to bear in mind that we are all, for much of our lives, somewhere in between.
The important point is to recognise when you are being pessimistic and then to actively think of ways to overcome it.
We know that if you begin to think in a negative way your bearing, manner, motivation and performance will tend to follow.
As a manager and a leader (see The Complete Leadership package) it is important to spot negative thinking and do something about it.
Firstly, as a leader, you should not indulge in negative thinking yourself.
Try some of these methods:
To help with this get people to draw up a contract with themselves. They should think about their medium term goals, write them down together with the actions needed to achieve them. Then get them to seal it in an envelope and you can give it back to them in 2 or 3 months time (depending on the time span) to see how they got on.
When looking at goals you may wish to use S.M.A.R.T. targets.